Hard Lessons Learned

Communication is frustrating.
Even after you think you have been as clear as can be there still can be issues. Actually I mean to say there definitely will be issues.

In the last few weeks there have been issues. Unhappy ones for me. As a result though, we each know the other better. If one intends to go forward this is a good thing.

It sure would have been less painful to have a Vulcan mind meld, a school marm lecture, a billboard, telegram ( singing even ) sign language, hell I'd have even opted for Klingon! Alas it was not to be. The hard way it was. 

So what was learned? I am a grown up. I am able to make my own decisions. I know what is best for me and as we should have learned in kindergarten-keep your hands to yourself. A person may do as much harm with good intentions as with bad.

What is intimacy? A discussion was had. Expectations were clarified. Two smart people can still see things very differently. What is important to me can be no big deal to another.

I gave some thought to removing my last blog post. But as I reread it I realized I would really change only one thing and that is this-I've come to believe the second email from the coworker was not a fake. I can still see how I could come to that conclusion though.

Ultimately it came down to protection. Defining when it was necessary and when it was not. Hard lessons learned and sad.