self-involved - absorbed in your own interests or thoughts etc
self-absorbed
egocentric, egoistic, egoistical, self-centered, self-centred - limited to or caring only about yourself and your own needs
I recently read an email between two people neither of whom know me all that well. But the one who knows me least felt comfortable laying out this judgment against me for the other's consideration. In hopes, perhaps, that this would encourage the other to exit my life.
I can see how this individual could come up with this evaluation of my character because of course anyone who gives up their career to stay home and raise two sick children, loans friends thousands of dollars, pays for vet bills for another friend and unasked purchases brand new bedding for a toddler as a gift, who sits by a friend's hospital bed so the exhausted husband can run home for some sleep and a shower, who sends money to support a state university library, who anonymously paid for something a friend said they needed, who bakes a cake and delivers it just because someone said they wanted one, who baked cupcakes by the dozens for a friend's daughter's birthday, who paid several hundred dollars to aid another friend to attend a conference they couldn't otherwise afford, who has spent countless hours listening and being there for others, who cares for a home and a man who probably doesn't deserve it, who wrote a check and handed it to another friend as deposit on an apartment, who spent several hours looking for a stranger's kitty lost in the cold and snow (and found it!), certainly must be self involved.
No shit Sherlock.
Life works best when we steer clear of people who pass judgments on us...at least in my opinion. Unfortunately, most people tend to, even if on a sub-conscious level.
ReplyDeleteOn it!
ReplyDeleteWow. deep. If thats called being self involved. I wanna be THAT.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the compliment. <3
ReplyDeleteI am ALL of those things -- and so we all must be from time to time, else we'll never know who we truly are. I choose to be, and I choose not to be self-absorbed when I see fit. As for someone else's opinion of that piece of me... I'm generally not concerned. After all, the only reason they'd make that judgement is if they'd rather you were absorbed with them -- which, actually, makes them a bit self absorbed. Otherwise, they wouldn't notice ;-) Hee hee. But that's just my take on it. Hugs!
ReplyDelete'I am ALL of those things -- and so we all must be from time to time, else we'll never know who we truly are'
ReplyDeleteWhen a life altering event takes place it doesn't just alter your life it alters you. Thereby creating, for me at least, the need to begin a pilgrimage to discover this new person and become acquainted with all aspects of the new character.
It has required a lot of introspection (and therapy hours)
But meanwhile I have also continued to live. One day at a time sometimes one hour at a time. Grateful for all blessings I know of now and those yet to be discovered.